My parents don’t want support…

They don’t feel they need it.

You’re not alone.

This is the case in nearly ALL of the families we help. The person the care is actually for doesn’t want it and is reluctant.

We wrote an article a few years ago with some tips, conversation starters and some of the reasons why this is the case.

Click here to read it…

We’ve also put together a system to follow through which can help:

The ‘I don’t need care’ system:

1.Agree with them. “You feel you don’t need care.“

If you agree the chances of them coming round are greater, if you disagree they’ll almost definitely say no.

“You’re independent, you don’t feel like you need support.

2.Find out the difficulties - “What are you finding most difficult right now?”

3.Tell them CareChooser are NOT a care agency. “They’re different to an agency, it’s a consistent local person to help out with a few things, no rushing in and out, no swapping around carers and it’s not nursing care, just to help with a few things like shopping.”

Perhaps tell them it’s friend of yours rather than a ‘carer’.

4.Ask open questions… When would be a good time for a local person to pop round?

Questions that can be answered with yes or no, the brain will usually say no to as a default. Use when or what rather than would or do.

6.Meet the carer informally, start with a trial to take off the pressure, build it up over time with flexibility.