Perhaps a family member doesn’t want care. You are not alone. This is normal.
Most of the families we work with are in a similar position. The person that the care is for doesn’t want it or thinks they don’t need it.
Here’s the beginning of a message I received just a few days ago.
“Dear Christopher,
Very many thanks for your help. Paul was perfect. We have been here before and having agreed to me having help, he changes his decision... ”
Now for a lot of the families we work with the care is NOT really for the person that it’s supposedly for. A lot of the time it’s really for a different family member to ease their load, give them some time to go out for a coffee, get their hair done etc.
We’re a little different to other care companies because we understand this.
Every other care company seems to obsess over the person that the care is for, they call it person-centred care, they completely forget about family members. Also by doing this they are perhaps actually causing and increasing the stigma around care further.
For some families this change makes a difference, actually the care is not for your husband, father, mother. It’s for you or another family member.
We are about working with families. We work closely with our carers and coach them about supporting family members as much as the other person.
A lot of our support is for family members. We have a family in Muswell Hill in London. The carer comes in for 3 hours each morning so the man’s partner can go out. She has peace of mind, she can get her hair done, shopping, see friends etc and the man who was reluctant at first knows that it’s really for his wife rather than for him.
There’s another family we arranged support for in Devon again a similar situation and last week in Kent where a lady pops in, gives a daughter who lives with her mother some time for a few hours. The daughter felt very guilty about this, but it’s normal.
In all these cases we also started the care differently. We kept it low key and informal. We started slowly and let it build up naturally over time.
If you’re in similar position with a reluctant family member and it’s the right time, get in touch at hello@carechooser.com or at 07792939454 or fill out the form below and let us know in the notes at the end and perhaps we can support you with this.
All the best,
Christopher
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