TOP TIPS

Top Tip - Episode 7 - Say 'living with dementia'

Today’s top tip is about taking the fight to dementia and the language we use.

Two weeks ago we shared some top tips on how to have a conversation with your parents about care.

You can read or watch the video of that here.

There's also a full guide on our website, CareChooser.com - click here

This week’s top tip - Say a person is ‘living with dementia’ and not ‘suffering with dementia.’

‘My mother is living with dementia.’

‘My uncle is living with dementia.’

We are very good at taking the fight to cancer. We use empowering language such as ‘fighting against it’ and the like but not so much with dementia.


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Top Tips - Episode 6 - How to talk to parents about care (Bonus Tip)

Last week we shared some top tips on how to have a conversation with your parents about care.

You can read or watch the video of that here.

There's also a full guide on our website, CareChooser.com - click here

A viewer commented on last week’s top tips with her own tip. She agreed that we could use her tip as this week’s bonus tip.

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As you can see Karen recommends speaking to parents about care early, perhaps before the point where they lose their independence.

This may make it easier for them to think they are in control and to agree some guidelines for when that time comes.

Having the conversation about care when parents are at the point of losing independence can be more difficult.

If you are at that stage and you need support with that. Do have a look at our tips, there are some conversation starters, there’s also the guide and we are also here to listen or to help on 02088860686 or at hello@carechooser.com.


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Top Tips - Episode 5 - How to talk to parents about care

Today I'm going to give you some top tips on how to have a conversation with your parents about care

You may think you are alone but… I can tell you that you're not.

Around 90-95% of our clients need to have the conversation with their parents because their parents are reluctant to have care or don't want care at all.

Nearly everyone is in that situation.

So... how to have the conversation.

There's a full guide on our website, CareChooser.com - click here

It's at the bottom of the home page, just below the pictures of our team and me... (when I had hair!)

There's a full guide with conversation starters and tips from the GP on our team.

Here are the top tips…

1. Plan the conversation.

Think about when the best time to have the conversation would be. During Coronation Street is probably not going to be a good time. Perhaps it be a good idea to have the conversation in a quiet room or a cafe.

2. The conversation.

It's best to reassure your parents. There's some complex reasons why your parents probably don't want to have care. We talk about those on the guide, some interesting complex reasons.

There's likely to be fears around losing independence and dignity and as well as some other complex reasons.

Use empathy but most importantly of all. Listen and understand.

If you listen and understand to what they're thinking and feeling they are much more likely to come round to your way of thinking. Avoid arguments at all costs. They just won't come round to your way of thinking if there is an argument.

3. Conversation starters

Think about how to start the conversation. The start of the conversation is very, very important.

Try not to use a closed conversation starter like 'would you like to have a carer?'

They’ll say yes or no and that's it. End of conversation. Think of an open ended question

There are conversation starters which we've collated from lots of different websites on our guide.

Something like perhaps... 'What's worrying you?'

4. Support for yourself.

Could a GP be in on the conversation with you? Could you have the conversation in the GP's surgery. Perhaps a social worker could be with you or another professional. Is there a family member that could support you during the conversation? Have a think about support for yourself.

5. Take time.

Don't expect your parents to come round to your way of thinking 1st time. This is very unlikely to happen

It's probably going to take 3 or 4 conversations or more. Be patient and take your time.

6. Meet the carer.

Perhaps allow your parents to meet the carer before starting the care. Some companies allow you to do that.

And then perhaps also go 1 step further. Perhaps think about letting them meet the carer on their own or with you in a different room.

They may feel like they are more in control and they can start to develop a relationship with that carer. Sometimes works very well.

There's some extra bonus tips from our GP. Really interesting ones actually on the guide.

Check that out at CareChooser.com It's at the bottom of the home page.

See you tomorrow for Wednesday's Dementia Live video and article.

Edit: One of our readers suggested talking about care early whilst they have their independence so they don’t feel they are losing independence, make it easier to think they are in control. Agreeing guidelines for when and how can be agreed taking the pressure off either side. See comment below…

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Top Tips - Get prescriptions delivered (for free).

TOP TIPS - Episode 4 - Get prescriptions delivered to your door (for free).

One of top home carers and I were in a meeting with a family this week to arrange the home care.

One of the family members said that their father was having difficulty collecting prescriptions and that they took the bus to collect the medication each week.

The carer suggested getting the prescription delivered to the door which is our top tip this week.

Other than the normal prescription charge this service should be free of charge, there are various companies that offer this service such as Well.co.uk

If you need any help with this give us a call or chat on the live chat below.


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Top Tips - Avoiding Falls

TOP TIPS - Episode 3 - Avoiding Falls.

Falls are the leading the cause of injury amongst the elderly.

Today we look into why falls happen and where they often occur followed by our 3 top tips to prevent falls.

Why?

Slippery floors and unsuitable shoes are common causes of falls.

Where?

Most falls occur at the transition from carpets to rugs and when loved ones are hurrying to the bathroom.

Top Tips

  1. Remove rugs

  2. Check carpet edges

  3. Check for well-fitted shoes for carpeted and bathroom areas.


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TOP TIPS - Funding for home care equipment

TOP TIPS - Episode 2 - Funding for home care equipment

  1. Know your options and know what’s available. Check the NHS and .gov website.

  2. Use the Ask Sara Website - quiz of needs which will recommend equipment.

  3. Request a needs assessment from the local council.

For the post with links on this. Click Here.

For care funding check out our article here… Care funding - Click here


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TOP TIPS - Having difficulty getting mum/dad/child dressed?

TOP TIPS:

  1. KNOW if you’re going to change behaviour it will get worse first.

  2. USE short 2-3 word instructions.

  3. CHECK if it’s communication - Are clothes too itchy, hot or cold?

  4. CUT eye contact, cut physical contact, cut conversation if there’s a tantrum.

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